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Sepatu Winter Pertama

Moscow Dulu, masih sempet pakai sepatu dengan hak 5 cm waktu kerja kantoran. Ya karena harus keliatan formal aja sih, meskipun nggak ada yang ngelarang juga kalau mau sepatu sneakers pun. Toh juga waktu kerja sepatu dilepas dan pakai sendal jepit.  Tapi itu sudah lama sekali. Setelahnya, bertahun-tahun hanya punya 1 sepatu sneakers dan 1 sandal. Sendal jepit punya lah ya, kan hidup di Bali. Salah satu esensial itu. Sebenernya alesannya sederhana, bukan karena nggak mau punya sepatu lebih dari satu tapi lebih ke males harus nyocokin sepatu lagi ke kaki yang belum tentu enak dipakainya.  Sepatu itu adalah hal esensial yang buat gw nggak apa mahal yang penting nyaman. Karena taruhannya di pijakan, dan itu bisa berdampak ke banyak hal kalau salah pilih sepatu. Jalan kaki adalah bagian besar dari hidup gw, jadi punya sepatu nyaman adalah hal yang tidak bisa dinego.  Nah, meskipun gw beberapa kali pernah jalan-jalan saat musim dingin, Moskow ini agak beda. Kalau di Belanda, mes...

Sudah Vaksin Covid Lengkap

Sei sapi yang kucintai Yes, it's my biggest flex this year.  Setelah vaksin pertama akhir Mei kemarin, akhirnya gw udah dapet suntikan kedua tanggal 21 Agustus 2021. Cantik kan tanggalnya?  Masih di RS yang sama, Surya Husadha, kali ini gw berangkat pagi. Yaa... 15 menit lebih pagi daripada vaksin pertama 😬 Karena gw ketiduran, seperti biasa. Hari itu hari sabtu, memang sengaja milih akhir pekan waktu vaksin pertama. Kita nggak tau efeknya bakalan gimana kan.  Vaksin pertama gw bisa bilang hampir ga ada efek apapun sih. Cuma ke UGD aja hari ketiga karena asam lambung naik banget. Setelah gw inget-inget, gw emang nggak banyak makan setelah vaksin malah gegoleran dan kata dokternya "Kalau abis vaksin tuh makan mbak yang banyak, protein yang banyak, jangan malah ga makan. Jadinya asam lambung naik kan?" Yasudah abis disuntik ranitidin, sejam juga gw udah mendingan.  Jadi gw bertekad "Ok setelah vaksin kedua, gw harus makan yang banyak!!!" Setelah gw datang di RS,...

I Let Go Of Anger

Since I've found my missing piece, I've been feeling complete, whole, happiest. Everything. It feels like my soul is one now. It gives me feelings that I've never felt before. Before I could feel any of this, I had an emotional roller coaster for months, I had restless nights, I had days with anxiety, I felt numb, I cried every night, I went to a psychologist, I was constantly tired. It was not easy and it happened for a few months before I turned 30. I even felt like giving up. "So how? Will I keep going or give up now? Should I give up now? It feels a lot easier when I give up" I had those thoughts for so long.  But then I realize something, "No, I do not quit. I am a fighter!" So I didn't quit, no matter how shitty those days were, I decided not to quit. So I keep going. I started to exercise, I started to eat healthy, less sugar on my tea and coffee, I sleep early waking up early. I started to map my mind and emotions one by one, putting them in ...

Turns Out, I Still Want To Have Kids

Chrysant A few months ago I was in doubt about having kids. It disturbed me that much. That much. Should I have one or not at all? I was doubting, I doubted myself, I wasn't sure about the reasons why I want to have kids. Oh come on let's be realistic, world is getting worse isn't it? Education is not cheap. A lot of destruction going on. How can I be that selfish to let my kids growing up in the crumbling world we're live in?  I wasn't even sure if I could be a good mother for my kids.  I tried to look for the reasons why I shouldn't have kids. A lot of them are sensible reasons. Very sensible and logical. I turned myself from wanting kids right after I got married into someone who questions the idea of having kids. Oh let me be clear here, I don't oppose people who want to have kids. It's totally your right. As long as you're being responsible. I love kids so much, don't get me wrong. I love them and I am good with them (for a few hours before ...

Diary Teacher Keder

Nggak berhenti ngakak ya ampun. Ini buku bener-bener sesederhana membuatku mengingat masa-masa kegelapan di jaman SD. Eh ternyata gw dulu jaman SD juga gitu ya ampun. Puluhan tahun berlalu ternyata kelakuan anak SD juga masih sama aja sekarang 😂 Bukti bahwa sejarah itu berulang. Jadi akhir-akhir ini gw menghindari segala macam yang agak berat. Terus ketika tau si pak guru satu ini rilis buku, gw sempetin beli lah jelas karena tulisannya nggak pernah bikin gw nggak ngakak. Meskipun gw belinya setelah sebulan lebih rilis. Di buku ini, yang paling bikin gw ngakak ada di bab perihal kutu 😂 Kenapa bisa creambath sekelas begitu sih 😂 Ini gw kenapa bisa ngakak banget karena dulu gw juga gitu. Nggak sekelas juga kek mereka sih, tapi lebih ke per grup gitu karena entah dari siapa, gimana ceritanya, kita sekelas kutuan semua ya ampun. Cepet amat kutu-kutu ini loncatnya. Gw nggak mau buka isi buku ini sih. Kalo penasaran ya beli aja lah sendiri. Tapi yang jelas buat gw, selama menyelesaikan b...

Hey, I Am Turning 30!

I always thought that wherever I go, August will be the hottest month of the year. Because it is summer for most people. August is my favourite but I always hated it for being the hottest month. But hey, if I move my ass to Australia, I'll be having August in winter!  I forgot that Australia is different. Although it is considered winter, the weather seems good between 15-22 degrees. It's the best temperature ever. August is my favourite month of the year.  Anyway, I am turning 30 today. A new milestone. I am feeling anxious lately. Some people said, "You're a young adult in your 20s but you became an adult when you turn 30" yea that definitely didn't help my anxiety.  When my mum was 30, I was already 10. So yes I had this in my mind, "30 is serious age, by that time I am probably married, have one of two toddlers." Everything was planned traditionally just like how I saw my mum. Graduate, job, married, having kids, living like a normal family. Turn...

Ingin Tinggal di Pedesaan

Geneva ... tapi bukan di Indonesia 😂 Gatau deh ini akhir-akhir ini aku suka banget nontonin kanal orang di youtube yang tinggal di desa, bisa self sufficient banget, tenang, damai, slow. Trus nonton Gilmore Girls, Virgin River juga. Suka aja ngeliatnya. Emang bener kehidupan di desa memang terasa berjalan lebih lambat karena nggak ada yang ngejar-ngejar. Nggak macet dan nggak sebising kota. Sebenernya mau gw simple. Gw emang banyak maunya sih tapi ya kenapa emang? Siapa tau diaminin malaikat lho. Gw pengennya tinggal di tempat desa yang alamnya itu masih lebih banyak daripada manusianya. Tapi kalo bisa sih fasilitasnya udah lengkap termasuk fasilitas kesehatan ya, terlebih lagi soal internet! Internet cepet adalah koentji.  Sempet lho kepikiran, "Ah gw pengen tinggal di NZ. Jumlah kambingnya aja jauh lebih banyak dari jumlah manusianya." Atau tinggal di sana tapi yang masih bisa nemu kang bakso, lontong kupang, sate, cilok, cimol, lupis, getuk lindri lewat depan rumah gitu. ...

Death used to be so far away from my family

I am turning 30 soon. I was excited that "Woah! My 30's gonna be something! I am excited." But I also forgot that it means we're getting older. My parents, uncles, aunties, everyone I have in my life. I still see them like a child seeing her important adults in her life. I always thought that I am 5 and they're in their 30's. Not realising that they're entering their 50's. My uncle passed away this morning. I am feeling closer to uncles from my mom side than from my dad's. Even though we were closed when I was a kid and we became like a stranger lately, but I have my own place for him in my heart. I thought, I wouldn't cry. I was wrong. I sat down when I made breakfast this morning and I cried. It is breaking my heart. How could he left me like that? It's unfair for him.  I called my cousin after his funeral. First thing she said was “I dont have a father anymore” 😔 Breaks my heart even more. Not only him, my aunties and uncle from my fath...

Are you an introvert too?

Sanur Introverts are yearning for deep talks and always exhausted for small talks. Small talks can be fun, but only when it's not too much. Deep talk is always energizing. I didn't know back then. It was weird for me that I can't jump into society as smoothly as my friends. I can't do small talks with my neighbors. I tend to stay at home and enjoy my own battle in my mind. I felt that people think I am a quiet person.  When I start to have my own ideas, opinions, and such, I told myself that I am not someone who can't talk. I remember my English teacher gave us the task to find foreigners to have small conversations with. I didn't live in Bali so I can't just randomly bump into foreigners so we did it from the internet. I guess I am addicted to it because I found some great people to discuss with and we're still being friends today. Don't you worry, introverts make some friends too. Fellow introverts 😂 No, I mean, I have some extrovert friends and w...

Decision Maker

Sanur As the firstborn, I am "automatically responsible" to my other siblings. That trained me so well on how to be a decision-maker. Because at any time, small things happening, I have to make the right and quick decision. That includes what I have to do with my life so that my siblings can see the good there. Would be better if they can do better than me.  Burdened by, "You have to be the best example for your siblings to follow". Well... I believe many of you feel that way.  I grew up studied mathematics in university. No, I don't really remember what did I learn that much. Perhaps only 50% of all classes I took. But one thing I know, this whole mathematics class for 9 semesters taught me how to simplify bigger problems, turn them into smaller ones, and make the right decision. At least, acceptable decision. I use my brain more than feelings when I make a decision. Although I know, a little bit touch of feeling is good too. I just, never make any decision whe...

Joy in the Little Things

Have you guys ever thought about this; being a grownup means you have to be responsible for (almost) everything, be tough, and many of us losing the joy in small things?  I read one of Jostein Gaarder books when I started my college year. That was because my roommate had a task to finish “Sophie’s World” for her philosophy class. She told me “read this book! Well... not Sophie’s World but this one first” She gave me Cecilia’s World. “This one is the thinnest one, give it a try!” Mindblown! One thing I remember that Cecilia (or her grandma) said “Adults forgot how to be a kid, how to find the joy in small things, they forgot that. They shouldn’t!” Why do I suddenly remember that? Because I was overjoyed last night knowing that my iPad sticking to my oven when I put it there. Of course, because it is magnetic. But now, I am sure that it won’t fall! That got me joyous for the rest of the night! Lol.  Silly? Yes. Adults would think that way. But you know what? That what makes us s...