Sabtu, 21 April 2018

The First 365 Days

Dearest husband, 

Hari ini, 365 hari yang lalu, aku tak lagi tanggungjawab ayahku. Namun beralih ketanganmu, suamiku.

Satu tahun pertama, membawa tantangan yang luar biasa edan. Kata orang, tahun pertama adalah tahun yang rawan. Bisa dibilang, tahun penyesuaian.

Makin lama makin banyak sifat yang muncul. Banyak gesekan, banyak selisih paham, banyak perbedaan. Hingga terbesit pertanyaan, Apakah kita bisa bertahan?

Memang benar apa kata orang, pernikahan ibarat kapal ditengah lautan. Kadang badai menerjang, kadang pula lautan tenang. Banyak berselisih paham bukan berarti tak sayang. Semakin lama semakin membuat kita paham. Apa dan bagaimana arti serta kemauan pasangan.

Tak ringan tentu saja. Ibarat kata, ini nano-nano. Rame rasanya. Manis, pedes, asem, gurih, asin, tawa, canda, air mata, semuanya jadi satu. Kompromi menjadi satu hal penting dalam hal ini. Kadang dia yang mengalah, kadang pula aku yang mengalah.

Aku bukanlah istri yang sempurna untukmu sayang. Aku tidak bisa menjanjikanmu kesempurnaan. Aku hanya bisa memberi janji melakukan yang terbaik untuk kita.

Kekuranganmu kelebihanmu adalah kekurangan dan kelebihanku. Terima kasih selalu memberikan yang terbaik bagiku. You are one of the best things in my life.

Selamat satu tahun sayang. Banyak ujian kita lewati bersama di tahun pertama. Kini saatnya kita naik kelas untuk ujian selanjutnya. Aku sayang kamu. I love you

Your wife,
Prisca Lohuis

Rabu, 18 April 2018

Watch Your Mouth People!

mungkin lebih cocok kalau ganti mouth dengan finger

Now since we live in 'social media' life, everything can be exposed online whether you like it or not. We can't deny that social media take part in our lives. And most people love to 'share' their life on social media. Some people share even the detail of their lives but some are use it only for fun or limited.

The thing is, when everything are exposed, it means indirectly you give 'permission' to them to criticize your life or let them leave comment on your life. And most problems coming from irresponsible people who doesn't even watch their mouth.

Few months ago, a rubbish online media misused my picture with H for something that wasn't even our own story. They use it for unrelated picture and story. Apparently the story was about Indonesian girl (TKI) screwed a white guy, got pregnant, but married her Indonesian husband to cover it up. They blurred the picture, so it make us like the real subject of the story. And the bullies coming along.

Some friends realize that it was my picture and they called me. So I took action, asked them to take it down otherwise I am going to sue them for misuse my picture. Long story short, some people on internet start to bully me. They said that I am such a bitch that screw a white man and ruin another man's life for being pregnant and lied. Most of all, they are focused on my hijab I wore on that picture. You know how it goes...?

Some people send personal message and said as if they were right and they knew everything. But they absolutely didn't.

What did I feel that time? I felt humiliated. I was just sharing what I love and it's like a diary of my life and also hobby as I love to write. So I took time off from blogging or sharing things. I do realize that it was also my mistake in a way by sharing my personal life, perhaps it was too obvious or whatever it is. But it is giving them chance to talking bad about the life that they dont even know.

We can't really blame them because the things we did was also one of the reason that triggered it up. But it makes me think how not to believe in anything online without doing small research before. At least to make sure that the news isn't fake or hoax. People love to share phenomenal news anyway.

What concerns me is : you'll leave scar for people who are being accused. You might enjoy when you are accusing and talking back as if you know everything about what you are talking about, but nope. You are wrong. What had happened to me was a small example. If I have no big self confident or being someone who are too sensitive, I might committing suicide soon afterward. But I can still feel how painful it was when people try to say what is 'right' based on their opinion and telling me what to do right. I don't give a shit anymore, but the pain remains.

We basically know nothing about other people's lives, right? Imagining how's life would be without having negative comments from people haha! Since I know how it feels, and some of my friends bring the pain forever and can't forgive what they did to them.

So.... watch your mouth people! If you know nothing, then say nothing 😄

Selasa, 10 April 2018

News Today

So today I got two different news. Sad and good news. Sad news was I've heard two people died. One is good friend of my parents, the other one was nephew of my friend. Although I am not that close with tho who died, I can feel their lost.

The other happy news was two best friends of mine are getting pregnant in same time. It's great to know it. The other one was having her second, and the other one was having her first since she got married last month. Great for them 😊

Minggu, 08 April 2018

Unexpected Layover In Brunei

So, canceled our flight back from Bangkok to Denpasar with Thai Airways, then try to find other flight back with reasonable price. I remembered that I was browsing for Royal Brunei before I fly to Bangkok and the price is the cheapest one among other airlines. We can’t really say this is a budget airlines but also not as great as other airlines. It was ok, almost same like GA without movie screen. So it’s like in the middle.

We found one flight (apparently they have their own flying schedule) from Bangkok to Denpasar on 9 January (we planned to get back on 8 Jan) with layover in Brunei for 4 hours.

I read about layover in Brunei and it seems that we can see the city for 2 hours. So let me tell you, Brunei airport is small. I need less than 20 mins to get out from airplane until immigration. Literally get out to the taxi spot. The immigration staff was the friendliest for me. He asked me where to stay in Brunei because I didn’t write any and I told him that I just transit for 2 hours to see the city. He let me pass, but H need more time to pass. That guy wasn’t sure that we can make it because it seems too short but H said that he want to see little bit and back in time so he stamp H passport. 

Immigration was divided into 2 spots, for ASEAN passport holder and Non ASEAN. It get so extremely quick to pass the immigration. No lines to queue up (even when we get back to airport, we both the only one at immigration service). We were so happy no lines like in Istanbul or Bangkok or Bali. 

And we were looking for money changer. It was in departure area. Departure area is upstairs, arrival is downstairs. I think that is the only one there. Then we rent a taxi for 2 hours to take us everywhere to see the city. It cost 70 dollar Brunei. He took us to Hasanil Bolkiah mosque where it has gold on its top, Omar mosque, Grand palace (to take picture in front of the fence), night market where we ate tasty sate and hear Jaran Goyang song (dunno who is the singer), passing the new bridge, stop at city center that was the quiet place for me. Population only 400k people including expats who works there. So small.

Masjid Hasanil Bolkiah



So small city, clean, green, no pollution of course, no traffic, really nice small city. I think it even smaller than Singapore (expensive as Singapore uh).

Not everyone know about Brunei. I also didn’t expect that I would be there even for 2 hours only. We met strangers in Ubud and we told them about this, they were like ‘Where is it?’ and I said ‘A small rich country where you don’t need to pay taxes if you live there’.

Masjid Omar Ali

I never expected to be there. It is small country, as expensive as Singapore, but so quiet at night, like almost no attraction there. Funny thing was when we were in Omar mosque and I need to pray (maghrib), I was washing my self and don’t know where to go, I asked a guy in English and he seems doesn’t understand so I speak mixed Bahasa and Malay. He showed me, not so clear but I walked there. Then I asked another guy and he said ‘Sebelah sini nduk, lewat sini’. I said makasih then I stopped and think ‘NDUK????’ I found it only in Java lol

Oh yea the language accent is closer to Bahasa than Malay. I can understand when people talk Malay, I just don’t want to use it. And there, in Brunei, it just like talking to each other using Bahasa. During this 2 hours layover, I saw road signs and everything written in Arabic or Malay. It’s like double, like in Malang some road signs are written in Bahasa and Dutch, in Central Java written in Bahasa and Javanese (hanacaraka). So it’s quite new for me to see Arabic and Malay.

It was fun for two hours. Was amazing short tour.