red square Nggak ada yang bikin gw 100% kaget dengan perbedaan, cuma rada syiksyaksyok aja dikit. Beberapa bulan lalu gw ke sini buat jalan-jalan. Ada kenalan suami bilang, "Gila ya, orang Moskow tuh wangi-wangi banget. Penasaran banget pake parfum apa." Waktu itu beneran nggak ngeh karena lebih banyak bau rokok daripada parfum sih menurut gw. Orang Moskow kalo ngerokok 11-12 kayak orang Indonesia di warkop. Tapi otak udah terpapar ide tersebut, jadi waktu gw balik lagi ke sini, eh beneran dong mereka di jalan tuh wangi banget. Wanginya nggak nusuk, malah blend-in banget sama sekitar jadi nggak yang tiba-tiba puyeng makbrengg gitu baunya. Enak banget. Iya bener juga, gw jadi penasaran mereka pake parfum apa. Gw pengen beli. Orang bilang kalau orang Rusia tuh jarang senyum, kaku, yang mana gw rasain pas awal dateng ke sini. Tapi setelah tinggal di sini, nggak juga kok. Mereka senyum kalau kita ngobrol sama mereka. Emang sih beberapa tetep ada yang pahit tapi nggak semua...
She still hates humans as she needs to listen to their stories and solved their problems. But she did it anyway because that's the only way to pay back her sin. Turns out that all she did now is for her unborn child, to release him from the curse (Seungjae as Kangbae is the reincarnation of her unborn child). That Gwi 반장 was her loved one from the past that also help her to finish her job without her knowing that he is her past lover (which also the father of the Kangbae).
a bull is a social creature, just like us - human
This drama is fun because they made it a comedy. But there is one value that I learned from this drama. Everyone wants to be listened to. She said it in one episode, "I've been doing this for the past 500 years and all of their problems actually came from no one listening to their stories and let them die alone without no one believing in them."
That got me to realize even more that to be listened to is one of human basic needs. Hearing and listening are something different. You can hear someone telling you their stories but that doesn't mean you listen to their stories. Sometimes when someone came to you and wants to tell you her/his story, we tend to cut their stories and tell them back about our problems (I did that, did not realize that). Or, we cut them in the middle and said "Your problem is not as hard as mine. Mine is worse than yours". Ngaku nggak lu pernah gitu?
I am still learning how to listen than judging or "giving advice" without them asking for it. This is my mantra when someone starts to tell me something: "Do you want me to listen to your story or you need my advice?" Or without asking them like that, I'll always try to invest a few mins of the conversation to listen. At least until they stop talking and asked me what do I think about that.
That probably applies to my closest people, when they want my opinions they'll just text me or call me and say "I want to know what do you think about this" When I listen more, I (surprisingly) get calmer. I have time to control what I feel towards the stories because it can be super annoying sometimes and super sweet too. I was not like this 3-5 years ago. But the more I listen to people, the calmer I get. So that's also how I control my reaction (I tend to overthink things).
this is how you look when someone said "your problem is not that hard, try to be grateful more" shit. his name is Boris, an old cat with a weird voice.
Talking to people I trust what I feel is one way to release the stress. I am doing that a lot more now as I am feeling so overwhelmed with all these shits happening since February 2020. Sometimes I feel like I want to cuss something or someone to let the negative energy out for awhile. I even feel like going to a psychologist for that. It makes me feel that this kind of feeling must've been felt by many people before, that they can't control themselves and want someone to listen to their stories only to make themselves feel relieved.
The point is, listen more when someone starts to tell you about their stories or problems. You'll find out more about them when you listen to their stories. Just, try not to sabotage their storytelling time.
Would you? Have a great weekend ahead, everyone 💚
let them die alone without no one believing in them
ReplyDeleteduh nyesek banget si ini ahahah
tapi emang cukup didengerin udah buat lega
makanya meski susah, dengerin yang lagi curhat atau butuh untuk didengerin sangat perlu pada masa kini.
Beneerr, nggak ada yg percaya atau sok menggurui pas kita butuh cuma didenger ituuu... nyebelin hahaha
Delete2020 ini kayake taun kita mendengar lebih banyak curhat biar legaan dikit :(